Raising Kids to Enjoy Volunteering
Throughout the year, and especially during the holidays, volunteering with children can promote family bonding and impart valuable lessons in giving back. More than 15 million youth — around 55 percent — participate in volunteer activities, mostly through religious, school or youth organizations, according to the Corporation for National and Community Service. But kids aren’t always willing helpers. Parents may wonder how to volunteer with a tiny tot, or about the best way to motivate a self-centered tween. Looking to get kids excited about giving back? Here’s age-by-age guidance on raising kids who give joyfully.
Don’t assume that kids need to be school age before they can volunteer. “When kids are very young, you can volunteer as a family unit,” says Simon Lockyer, father of two and founder of online giving platform everydayhero.com. Volunteering helps teach interpersonal skills including communication, empathy and respect for others, and can foster future interest in volunteering. Toddlers and preschoolers can help plant community gardens, wrap or decorate gifts, help pick up litter or rake leaves for an outdoor cleanup, sort and stack donated coats and scarves, or help shelve items at a food bank. Lockyer recommends bringing young ones to visit the elderly in nursing homes or deliver Meals on Wheels. “Their presence makes the experience really beautiful, brightening the faces of the sad and lonely who live either away from home or on their own.” Don’t expect little ones to truly get the concept of giving back — just let them enjoy the act of helping others. “The earlier you begin volunteering and fostering your skills, the better.”
School-age children have a host of new worries and responsibilities, from friend cliques to math homework, and they can be preoccupied with their daily lives. They can also make excellent, caring volunteers, says licensed family therapist Jen S. Miller, owner of Foothills Family Therapy in Winston-Salem. It’s all a matter of finding something that sparks a child’s interest. “When children have decision-making autonomy to choose the type of charity or organization they want to work with, it gives them additional motivation and empowerment,” she says. Parents can present grade-schoolers with several options, preferably ones that relate to the child’s own life. Kids who have been bullied can volunteer with a group that advocates for bullying victims, pet lovers can work with animals and bookworms can help at a book drive. The benefits are multifaceted, says Miller. Kids not only feel great about giving back but also connect with others who share their struggles or interests.
Give and take
Though volunteering benefits kids of all ages, it’s especially meaningful for teens, who can more fully appreciate the concept of altruism, says Miller. “Through volunteering, they can grasp the good feelings of giving instead of receiving, and apply more meaning to their lives and relationships.” That doesn’t mean giving back doesn’t have personal benefits, says Lockyer. “Volunteering has become an increasingly important social and professional statement — professional networking website LinkedIn has added a volunteer section where a job-seeker can showcase volunteer experiences, and many colleges factor volunteer pursuits along with other extracurricular activities in admission decisions,” he says. Teens looking to get involved — and or beef up a professional resume or college application — can visit volunteermatch.org to connect with nonprofits based on their skills and experiences.
Malia Jacobson is an award-winning health and parenting journalist and mom of three. Her latest book is “Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.”