Baffled by your baby’s sleep patterns? Here’s help!
Tiny, warm and sweet-smelling newborns are undeniably adorable, but unfortunately, these sweet little bundles don’t come with instruction manuals. Along with the many surprises of early parenthood, new parents find themselves puzzling over their baby’s sleep patterns. Is she sleeping too much? Is it normal for him to feed so much at night? Why are her naps so short?
If your baby doesn’t seem to fit the mold of a peacefully sleeping newborn, don’t fret: Your little one is one-of-a-kind, and so are his sleep habits. From their first days of life, babies have individualized sleep patterns. Some restful newborns snooze contentedly with no problems, sleep for long stretches at night and take predictable (if not regular) naps throughout the day. Many other babies present their parents with significant sleep challenges.
Contrary to popular belief, newborns don’t just magically “sleep when they need to sleep.” And new parents are usually just getting to know their new family member and haven’t yet figured out their baby’s unique sleep needs or sleep cues. But supporting healthy sleep starts early, so read on for tips on helping your new little one sleep well (so you can catch a few zzzs, too).
Don’t be surprised if life with a new baby is a round-the-clock snoozefest (for the baby, at least). New parents are often shocked by how much babies sleep, says Dr. Roslinde M. Collins, a sleep specialist at Vermont’s Rutland Regional Medical Center. “During the first month of life, newborns need a significant amount of sleep, up to 18 hours a day,” she says. “But lots of parents wonder if something is wrong when their baby sleeps that much.”
Make some noise
In the womb, your child drifted off to sleep surrounded by the whoosh of your pumping blood, the thumping of your beating heart and the rumbling of your stomach. After being soothed by a comforting blanket of noise for nine months, babies often find life outside the womb strangely quiet, says Dr. Harvey Karp, a pediatrician and author of “The Happiest Baby On the Block.” He recommends high-quality white noise to comfort newborns and help support longer sleep periods. “White noise is like an audible teddy bear — it’s very soothing to babies,” he says.
When your sleepy little one finally opens her eyes, grab your camera — she’ll be snoozing again before you know it. In the first month of life, most newborns can only tolerate being awake for 45 minutes to an hour at a time. Their daily routine consists of feedings, diaper changings, short periods of playtime and being put back down to sleep. By three months of age, many babies can tolerate staying awake for an hour and a half at a stretch.
Newborns don’t have a predictable nap schedule until three to four months of age when regular patterns begin to emerge. Until then, don’t fret about short naps. Just wake your child from any nap longer than two to three hours to protect nighttime sleep.
Night owl nudge
In the early weeks of life, your baby’s circadian rhythm begins to develop. This “body clock” helps her organize her sleep patterns, resulting in more daytime wakefulness and sleepiness at night. This rhythm doesn’t fall into place until the second month of life. Until then, many babies swap day for night, preferring to snooze all day and play all night — leaving new parents knackered.
To help babies learn that night is for sleeping, avoid nighttime light exposure, says Collins. This allows your baby’s brain to produce adequate melatonin during nighttime hours. “Melatonin is the hormone that tells our brains when we should be sleeping, and it’s suppressed during light exposure,” she notes. That means saying no to nightlights, installing blackout curtains and using a very dim light for nighttime feedings and diaper changes.
Like older children, newborns give signs that they’re ready for sleep. But for new babies, sleep cues are often subtle. Appearing glassy-eyed and “burrowing” into your chest are signs that some babies are ready to be put down for sleep. Once your baby begins displaying these sleepy signs, move swiftly to get him down to sleep before over-tiredness and crankiness set in.
You can help set the stage for peaceful bedtimes in the future by establishing a simple wind-down routine. Performing the same sequence of events in the same order before naptime and bedtime helps your baby understand that sleep is near. A story, quiet time in a crib or bassinet, a feeding and swaddling can all play a part in your child’s sleepy-time routine.
Support independent sleep
Parents often believe that newborns need to be rocked or nursed to sleep, but nursing and rocking are learned habits — in the womb, your baby drifted off to sleep without your help. It’s perfectly fine to nurse or rock a new baby to sleep, but if you’d like your child to learn to sleep independently, take small steps to start now.
Put your baby down to sleep when he appears tired and try to allow him to fall asleep unassisted. He may surprise you by revealing that he can sleep independently, at least some of the time. Allowing him to do so whenever possible is the key to healthy sleep habits through babyhood, toddlerhood and beyond.
Safe sleep for newborns:
- Newborns should sleep in cool environments below 70 degrees (sleeping in warm environments increases the risk of SIDS).
- Place your infant to sleep on his back on a firm surface.
- Don’t use bumpers, crib blankets, pillows, sheepskins or toys in the crib.
- Pajamas should be fitted, not floppy.
- Swaddling blankets should not extend above the baby’s chin.
Malia Jacobson is a nationally published journalist and sleep expert and the sleep columnist at ParentingSquad.com. She blogs about sleep and family health at thewellrestedfamily.com.