Are Thank You Notes Still Necessary?


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Of course! The gifts have been opened and the kids are playing with their new toys during their school break. That's when you have plenty of time to sit down and write those thank you notes to Grandma, aunts and uncles and friends and neighbors. Maybe in some circles, the handwritten thank you note is becoming obsolete, as seen in this slideshow of 12 Things That Became Obsolete in this decade. But when it comes to Emily Post and other people in the know as far as etiquette and manners, the thank you note is still very important. And plenty of parents agree. Especially for friends and relatives who couldn't be there when the presents were opened, thank you notes show that their gift was appreciated. According to Miss Manners, thank you notes should not only be written, but should also be specific and thoughtful.

It might not be easy to tear the kids away from the brand new Wii or their beloved baby dolls for a few minutes with pen and paper, but it's important for so many reasons. It can help them improve their writing skills, it teaches them basic etiquette— something that will serve them well at social occasions throughout the year — and helps enhance those morals we all want our kids to grow up with, of caring and thinking about others.

Here are some tips to take the dread out of writing thank you notes.

1. To help make it fun and not torture, make a party out of it. Get out the last of those Christmas cookies and make some hot chocolate and enjoy a festive snack while writing those notes.

2. Let kids' thank you notes have a personal touch. Whether it's their own writing, or if they're still young, a few pictures, the recipients will enjoy something that obviously came from the heart.

3. Keep it simple. They don't have to be long epistles, just something short and sweet, but remember, specific and thoughtful!

For some more help, check out these sites:
Hitched Magazine's Thank you note etiquette
Real Simple's 5 Tips for Writing Thank You Notes With Kids

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