8 Traits of Disciplined Children
You see them at the grocery store, doctor’s office and playground. Unruly — some might say undisciplined — children are easy to find. But how do you identify kids who are disciplined? Sherrie Campbell, a licensed psychologist and author of “Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person,” suggests looking for these signs.
1. Self-Control: Emotional maturity is the ability to delay gratification. Disciplined children commit to doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.
2. Empathy: Disciplined children are able to put themselves in the shoes of someone else, which allows them to develop understanding and genuine care.
3. Motivated to feel good: Disciplined children have been parented to know they are “good,” and because of this they are driven, through their own behaviors, to maintain this state of internal well-being.
4. Responsible: Disciplined children have been raised to be motivated from within to help around the house, school and in the world at large because they see the value in contributing to the whole rather than just thinking about their own needs.
5. Self-Love: Children who are disciplined have an internal sense of self-worth. Their confidence is derived from within and not just from performance or outside validation.
6. Responsible: Disciplined children own up to their mistakes and are more likely to make good choices because they desire to feel good. Accountability is not an opportunity to practice being a good person.
7. Respect authority: When children have been positively disciplined they respect authority, rules and basic moral codes. If you respect your children, they will learn to respect you and authority in general.
8. Happy: Children who have been disciplined are happy people. They are pleasant to be around and have an easy time making and sustaining relationships.